Couples who may be concerned with the following:
Trust / Betrayal / Infidelity
Your worst fear has come true: your spouse was unfaithful. You feel so incredibly betrayed and wonder whether the trust can be rebuilt. It’s scary to think it may be over. But discovering an affair doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship. Through marriage counselling, surviving infidelity IS possible. It’s clear that you want to save your marriage but all you’ve been feeling is anger, resentment, and emotional abandonment. Security is lost. But, marriage counselling can give you the guidance you’re looking for when faced with such pain. Should you stay, or should you go? Your family and friends mean well but you just don’t know who to listen to anymore. Marriage counselling can help give you clarity.
Security and trust in your relationship is vital to the intimacy a healthy relationship needs. With skillful guidance, you and your spouse can recover from an affair. I’m here to support and assist you work towards your relationship goals.
Intimacy: Physical & Emotional
Do you feel like you’ve lost that connection you once had with your spouse? That you’ve grown apart or feel like you’re off in different directions? When you look at your spouse, does it feel like there is so much more work than there used to be? It can be so frustrating! You love the person sleeping next to you but it’s just not the same as it used to be. Do you feel like roommates rather than a married couple? Does it just feel stagnant? Maybe it’s been so difficult to sustain healthy physical and emotional intimacy with you partner. You’re not ready to give up, so it may be time to consider reaching out for some help getting back to the place you used to be.
Communication
Communication is vital in a relationship. When there is a breakdown in how you’re communicating with one another, it becomes more and more difficult to “keep it in neutral”. Emotions become heightened, you both become angry, and you end up feeling even more hurt and undervalued than before. When you’re not on the same page, when you feel as though your thoughts and feelings just aren’t important, when the resentment becomes so big, maybe it’s time to sit down and talk with someone who can help. When you’ve lost that connection because of bad communication patterns, call me, I can help you learn new ways of solving conflicts and get on the same page again!
Separation and Divorce
Sometimes the lines can blur when it comes to divorce. It can feel so intense dealing with the legal process that you sometimes forget to take care of yourself emotionally. I can help you maintain your balance when things have become “tilited”.
There are so many things to think about once the paperwork is signed and the divorce finalized. How will you adjust to single life again? When is right to start dating? When is the right time to introduce your children to your new boyfriend/girlfriend?
Working on adjustment to this new life takes time and it is more than OK is you feel you need support getting there.
Infertility
Experiencing challenges with conception can be one of the most difficult things a couple can go through. The “not knowing” starts to affect the way you relate to one another, and you might be starting to feel unappreciated and resentful. It’s so hard NOT to focus on much except getting pregnant. Everywhere you turn everyone is having a baby. If you’re invited to one more baby shower, you’re going to lose it! The further and further you go into your journey, the more difficult it seems to stay positive and hopeful.
You’ve talked to the fertility clinic about the physical issues, but have you made a plan to take care of your emotional needs as well? Not only am I clinician who sees clients regarding their own emotional well-being though fertility treatment, but I have also been through my own journey with infertility.
Pre-marital counselling
It’s a magical time and you’ve found the perfect dress & tuxedo, booked the best photographer, hall, DJ, caterer, and of course, honeymoon! But, getting married is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make. Are you truly ready? Did you spent as much time talking about the “meat and potatoes” of marriage as you do about the wedding? These things are so important in setting the right foundation for your marriage. I can help you navigate through these sometimes difficult conversations with your soon-to-be spouse.
“Love your spouse more than you love your career, hobbies, and money. That other stuff can’t love you back”
– Dave Willis